Hey guys! I’m currently in the process of putting together a much nicer, much more maintainable version of this blog over at Chicago Falcon. All the posts and comments are over there (although the audio files are not transferred over yet, working on it), so that’s where all updates from here on out are going to be.

Falcons forever!

FR: Hair stylist, time to arrange a private session…

The TDD lifestyle is great, because by living the 24/7 lifestyle, I don’t have to shift into ‘PUA’ mode in order to meet women. I’m already doing exactly what I want to do, and I can easily draw women into my world while I’m doing it.

Case in point. Tonight my improv group performed at a bar here in Chicago. I arrive, and the waitress is one of those chatty waitresses, not really all that cute, but talkative and breasty and is going to flirt in an attempt to upsell me. I have no problem with saying no to her egging me on to buying more drinks, so I just goof around with her.

Fast forward to later on. A guy I know comes in with a girl that he wants to fuck. Problem is, he’s incredibly needy about it. He’s hanging on her, he’s had her to his house before, but nothing happened… very needy and week-willed. But she’s dressed nicely. I see her and the first thing I think is “she’s looking for dick.” Very low cut shirt, short skirt. Yes, definitely dick.

So we do our show and bring the house down. Tonight was our night, it was our best show ever. As I head back to the table I notice she’s messing with my sunglasses I left on the table. She slides one earpiece into her shirt and they’re danging between her boobs as she’s telling me what a great job our group did, while the dude is standing besides her, ignored. I leave for a minute to talk to the host of the evening, return, and now they’re on top of her head. I’ve seen this from women before. I think PUAs taught this before. Take something and keep it, so the person has to come back. I know your tricks.

Anyway, I’m on fire after that great show (I love improv!) and am being myself, 100%. Somewhere in the conversation she mentions that she’s a hair stylist.

Me: Really? I need a haircut. I’ll bet you work at one of those expensive-as-shit salons though.

Her: Yeah… But I give discounted haircuts to friends at my house.

{Holy shit!!}

Me: Nice! Give me your contact info. (which was actually unnecessary to say, she was already going for her purse).

Her: Hmm… I think I’m out of cards… just take my number instead.

Done and done. So now it’s time to set up a private consultation with a hair stylist.

Again, I was just doing my thing, surrounding myself with people I like, doing what I love. We shine in those moments, and I believe we’re never more attractive to women than when we are doing exactly those kinds of things. I’ve had a lot of success in a very short time by surrounding myself with the improv I love, and the women… they come right along for it too.

So now it’s time to set up a time to get my haircut…

Fun Vibe

Check any dating site, or interview, or even talk with a girl you know, and ask her what she looks for in a man. Every single woman I’ve talked to or read about, without exception, says she wants a guy with a sense of humor. This is not a coincidence, humor is a very attractive quality in a man.

TDD puts sense of humor in as part of the Fun Vibe that is a key quality for a successful and fun man. But if you don’t consider yourself able to pull this off (which is wrong) let me give a brief overview. Humor is important. It proves to a woman that you do not take life 100% seriously. It’s easy for guys to get caught up in their jobs, or routines, or whatever, and miss out on learning how to find life exciting and how to have adventures – both of which are qualities that women gravitate towards, which just proves how rare they can be in a man. Having a fun vibe dispels that concern from her mind, and more importantly, makes you a well-rounded person in general.

But humor, in my opinion, also does another thing. It correlates very closely with the basic TDD principles.

Huh?

In order to be genuinely funny, in a way that will make anyone laugh (except for anyone who is predisposed to not laugh at you) there are two main qualities that I feel a person should have. They are the following:

1) Funny people are honest. They talk about what they see and what they feel. They call out the ridiculous and awkward moments in their own character, as well as bizarre situations in real life. They can even call out awkwardness in others, although I would encourage you, if you wanted to try that, to make sure you’re being supportive of those people, so they don’t feel self-conscious. This honesty also needs to come from a place of confidence – there are many self-deprecating comedians in America today, but that is certainly not an attractive quality. Think more along the lines of Bernie Mac and less along the lines of Richard Lewis. But you can see the patterns in life that repeat over and over again, and can comment on them.

A hastily written example:
Do you know that I’ve lived in my new apartment for a week, and I’m already realizing that, when walking towards the train, I walk the exact same direction every time? Not even along the same street. I mean on the same side of the street, I step off the sidewalk to cross the street on the exact same foot. Every time! Human brains are weird!

Keep things honest with the real world, and you will do well.

2) Funny people are specific. They don’t talk in generalities. They don’t talk about “the pizza place”. Instead, they talk about “the Dominos with the crack in the ceiling that looks like a cockroach”. They don’t say they’re going home to get online. They’re going home to check Gmail and then mindlessly switch between T-Pain music videos and YouPorn until they’re hungry enough to eat 2 Big Macs, and saturated fat be damned!

Mike Myers, when he was teaching improv here in Chicago, would introduce his students to a character he called Vague Man, the antithesis of comedy. “Who am I? I’m Vague Man! I work in the place where I do the thing! Then I purchase some items at a convenience store! I’m Vague Man!” And while this characterization is funny, actually saying those things is not.

So don’t be Bar Guy, the dude who stands around the bar, likes stuff, and drinks some beer sometimes. Be specific, be honest, and you will naturally begin being funny as well. Take it from a guy who’s enjoyed comedy since he was 12 years old. If you’re trying to be funny, you’ll fail. But if you follow these rules, accidental comedy (the best kind) will not be far behind.

Health/Fitness Podcast with The Spartan

Attached is the podcast I recently recorded with the Spartan, from the TDD forums. In it he gives a solid foundation for health and fitness knowledge, as well as how to plan goals and keep motivated. I learned quite a bit! Enjoy!

*It’s a bit quiet, I’ll try to fix it later, but it should be listenable for now.

New podcast soon – starring The Spartan!!

Hey guys, very soon I will have a podcast up with a special guest – The Spartan from the TDD forums, who will discuss fitness and nutritional health, and give us (I include myself in this) some solid advice on basic knowledge in both areas.

I then will talk about TDD-style approaching, as well as justified interest and my opinions and viewpoints on these topics.

Expect to see it online by the end of the week!

What’s the value of a PI with me?

So starting in June, I will be an instructor for TDD in Chicago, New York, and Washington DC. So what, exactly, is the benefit of learning with me? If I could go back to myself 2 years ago, and offer myself what I needed to succeed, what would it be?

The biggest part is mindset. Guys, I thought I was a loser two years ago, and so I turned into a loser in my daily life. It wasn’t until I realized how cool I was (accomplished by finding my true passions in life and moving to a city I truly like) that my mindset started to change, and that has made all the difference. So the biggest focus of you being my client is to make sure you have your foundation locked solid. I can say some stupid shit, I break the ‘rules’ all the time, and yet I still find success. Why? Because of my superior mindset. I KNOW that I’m an incredible person, and that leaks out of my skin 24/7. This is easily 85% of what you need to focus on in your daily lives.

My plan: This will start even before you meet with me.

1. Teach you to start exploring your life more. Have you ever heard the advice on PUA sites to ‘get a hobby’? Well, it’s a superficial look at what truly makes you successful: a superior lifestyle. Over the phone, you and I will start figuring out exactly what you like in life, what your true passions are, and how you can start boosting your own confidence months before we meet by taking looks into this aspect of yourself.

2. Start giving you specific mindsets to adapt. We are all different, and live very different lives. However, research has found that on a biological level we are all 98% the exact same, and likewise, there are general mindsets that all successful people have. These mindsets are ways to look at being social, handing yourself in daily life, dealing with your own sexual drive, and inviting women into sexual relationships with you. You will start learning these right away, so we don’t waste much time when we meet.

These will give you plenty to think over until we actually meet up. Then, during the PI, you will experience the following:

1. A full 48 hours together with me, during which I will put 100% effort into demonstrating every aspect of the personality, character, and mindset that has made me so successful over the past year. I am in regular contact with a pipeline of women, and you will be privy to the conversations I have with them, both my end and their end. I will enthusiastically explain exactly what has led into those particular relationships, and will work with you to start adopting these same traits into yourself as well.

2. Closed Environment work. The majority of our work is done in closed environments, and as such, these will be emphasized during our time together. Bars, stores, classrooms, offices… these areas are where we spend the majority of our time, and we will spend both daytime and nighttime exploring them. We will start by me demonstrating to you how easy it is to socialize, and then inviting you to participate more fully as well. You will not be pushed further than you have to be, but also remember, being social is like a muscle, and it needs to be built up before you can consistently pull ONS’s, dates, or whatever your goal is.

3. Character assessment. I’ve spent many years in theater, and have seen congruent and incongruent players onstage in my lifetime. People in real life are not any different, and I will spend time pointing out to you specifically what your physical actions, speech patterns, and fashion are telling people when you talk to them. Many times people are unaware of the messages they are sending out. My job is to inform you of this, and make suggestions as to how to adjust them for maximum congruency and efficiency. It’s not bad to be undecided in some aspects of your life, but a congruent character is mandatory to be a falcon, or even just a guy with multiple options.

After the PI:

1. On Sunday you will be given a full review of the weekend, and a detail game plan for the next 6 months of your life. This will put you on track for the continued success that you deserve after spending much of your time, energy, and money on the weekend.

2. Continued contact by phone and / or Skype. Guys, I can’t stress this enough. I’ve seen other companies, how people will take their bootcamps and then vanish forever. DON’T DO THIS. You’re not hiring me to be your coach for a weekend. You’re hiring me to continue guiding you into the future as well, and if you’re selling yourself short, then you aren’t getting your full value’s worth, and you very likely will run into snags in the future and not know exactly how to get past them. Let me continue coaching you, and you will be meeting your goals quickly and relatively easily.

So that’s the basic summary. Please contact me if you have other questions. I will be available throughout the midwest starting in June, and will have my instructor page up on Troy’s blog shortly. Until then, keep those LRs coming!

Philip
TDD Chicago

It’s Official!

I am officially an instructor for Troy Dizon Dating, the single best dating and lifestyle method on the market today. The power of TDD lies in the fact that, instead of attempting to trick and win over women with fake bullshit and techniques designed to fool them, it teaches guys to make themselves the most confident and sexually comfortable men in the world, which draws women into their lives, very often with little actual effort on the part of the man himself. I could easily write about it for hours, but instead I encourage you to go to the forum where all your questions will easily be answered.

The plan is for me to cover Chicago, New York, and Washington D.C., and all points in between. If you are in one of these areas I encourage you to contact me (info on the right hand side of this page) for details on what exactly I offer as a dating and lifestyle coach. I will be happy to call, Skype, or email you any answers you may want.

I will be regularly available for private instruction starting in June. Contact me if interested.

It’s time to tear the Midwest apart!!

Own Your Shit

When I was 20 years old I was not happy with college. I spent my time sitting in class, feeling like time was slipping away. I was unhappy and wanted things to change. So finally I changed them, dropped out, and moved to Portland, Oregon from Indiana.

I ended up spending a good chunk of time out there, and slowly moved down the west coast until I ended up in Texas, and then traveled to New York City. During this time I was able to do the traveling I had always wanted to do, play music I wanted to play, and find and maintain friendships that I wanted to maintain.

Once I went back to college, however, I started regretting this choice. I was several years older than my classmates, which at the time made me feel incredibly old. I was studying theater and felt old and already past my prime. I was 24, working with 20 year old who had headshots, resumes, and had been auditioning for several years. Why am I even trying?

Of course, this is ridiculous. I’ll bet you wouldn’t mind hearing a little more about what exactly I did on the west coast. Maybe you’re wondering what kind of music I played. Where did I get the money to travel? Why Portland? And I’ll bet, if I threw out that sentence in a bar, I’d have the group I was talking to asking the same things.

My point is, own your shit. We’ve all got years of history behind us. Some things we’re glad we did. Some things we aren’t. Some things we liked at the time but now regret. And some things seemed rough but turned out okay. Don’t be afraid to shine them all in a good light and display them to the world, because the world will admire you for it, and women will relate to you.

Was there a woman in your life that you broke up with because it wasn’t working out? Then be proud that you stood up for your own standards, and don’t worry that it upset you at the time. Did you try to kiss a girl and her boyfriend got angry? Be glad that you know what you’re looking for in a woman, and proudly show other women that you aren’t afraid to go after the things you want in life.

Be PROUD guys. Don’t look at your life and say “I wish it had been like this….” That’s a stupid way of looking at things. It’s human nature to want to change things that have already happened. But you can’t. So drop the act.

Be PROUD. Look into the mirror, and instead of saying “Oh fuck….” say “FUCK yeah!” In fact, I think you should do it right now. Go to the mirror and tell your reflection how fucking proud of it you are.

Be PROUD. Love what you do right now, and love the fact that the life you’ve lived has brought you to this exact moment. The mistakes and pains you have made in the past have turned you into the person you are right now, and that’s no small thing. Women want to fuck you. They just need to find out who you are and that you’re available.

Own. Your. Shit.

Introduction Podcast

Okay guys, I had so much fun doing the podcast with Troy and Alex that I decided to record my own introduction podcast. On it I cover a few basics.

-A brief history of my own experience since originally finding the community.
-My own mindsets, and where I, over the past year, have started to find success.
-Talking about the mundane – what exactly is the mundane after all?
-Pipelines – what they are and how they will help you increase your own personal success.

Check it out!

Congruency

Congruency is a powerful ‘macro’ idea, because it’s the idea of getting everything working together. A congruent person presents a unified character and personality to the world, it shows that you are someone who has your life in order, arranged just the way you want it. Congruency creates unique character, and pulls people in.

Incongruency is just the opposite. An incongruent person is someone who doesn’t know what they want, doesn’t have a solid base for their life, and is drifting more than anything. An incongruent person is someone who doesn’t take firm stands on what they believe, they flip-flop on their opinions at the drop of a hat, and are unreliable in general.

I believe that most people are congruent to some form of character, because being sincerely incongruent in life would mean you live a truly random life, which is too stressful for any length of time. So perhaps you are the guy who chats with strangers wherever he is. Or maybe you are always on the lookout for a new hookup. Perhaps you just can’t get enough dancing. Or maybe you enjoy being on stage. These are all characteristics that will lead to a certain character. Your behavior will fit into that character, and you will be a congruent person.

Of course, not all congruenices are helpful to leading a dynamic sexual life. If you clam up and get embarassed whenever you talk to a pretty girl, well, you’re going to be congruent, but congruently not attracting them into your life. If you shy away from bars and clubs that’s going to put a dent into your life as well.

So let’s say you’re a a person who doesn’t get as much sex as he wants, but you want to change that. How are you going to go about restructuring your life? Are you going to keep your daily life the way it is, and then dress up in fuzzy hats and shiny props at night. NO, because you’ve just introduced a massive incongruity into your life. These two lifestyles are not compatible, and therefore you will become an incongruent person. And incongruent people are not attractive.

Instead, you need to attempt to define the kind of life you want, and jump in. You need to start living the change you want to see in your life from day one. You want to be a more social, talkative person? Then DO IT. You want to be more active? Then DO IT. You want to be the sexual guy? Then DO IT.

You don’t need to attempt to change everything at once. In fact, I’d say that trying to change everything at once would lead to so much stress that you’d end up breaking down and giving up a couple days later. But you start small. You want to be more social? Do a couple things differently. Make small talk at the cash registers of stores AND go out one extra night a week for a single drink. Choose a venue and go there every time. Soon you’ll meet the people who work there, and BOOM social proof.

You want to be more active? Take a dance class – just once a week. If you really enjoy it, then pretty soon you’ll start finding reasons to go out two nights a week, and soon – BOOM – you’re hosting dance parties at clubs throughout the city.

You want to be the sexual guy? Start talking about relationships to everyone. Ask women about their boyfriends and how they met, then be ‘jealous’ that she’s in such a wonderful relationship. Soon you’ll start to realize that most women, indeed, are NOT happy in their relationships. Start thinking about sex, and not in a “i shouldn’t be doing this” way. Go out and appreciate how much women get dressed up for men. Even more importantly – you start dressing up for the women, and take pride in how well you look. Everyone else will look at you in awe.

Be the change you want to see, and like the Titanic you will slowly start changing course – just be sure to make the change now, before you hit the iceberg, and realize that you’re suddenly a few years older than you want to be, and much lonelier than a man should be. Start acting the change, and you’ll start to actually become the person that you’re ‘trying’ to be.

And please, for the love of your own preferred deity, change your mindset. Don’t think “I want to be a success.” Think to yourself “I AM a success – now who’s going to get the opportunity to meet me.”